I wrote about emotional costs. Well this weekend's service was a big help.

I've decided to take church service as my morning Bible study. This service was such a powerful message for me since the misunderstanding with my dear friend.

The first lesson is that 'God wants us to have success in our relationships." Weather it be friendship, marriage, or parenting.

2. "When we have rest we tend to drift away from God." We need to hold fast to God, and remain obedient to God and his commandants.

3. "Be slow to go to war!" Someone says something and tells someone else. The rumors begin. Division results. Brother goes to war with brother with out checking their facts. Don't make false assumptions. Before going to war, have a fact finding mission. Satin is the accuser of the brotheren.

4. "We have to assume the best when it comes to relationships." Stop and ask some questions.We may not have all the fact. We may have assumed the worst. This is a really good time to remember the track record we have with this person. When we perceive a wrong we can easily disconnect and forget the history we have with this person.

5. "Assume the best." Instead of going quickly to the wrong conclusion, look at them thru the eyes of God. We need to deal with friends with 'Assume the best.'

6. "Resist the temptation to get defensive." We tend to get defensive. This is where relationships begin to be distroyed. When on the receiving end of a misunderstanding, take the time to communicate understanding. Communication is necessary. Say it, say it straight, and say it lovenly. Share your heart. Be calm and speak the truth in love.

7. "Burry the offense." Don't hold on the past wrongs. Love and forgivness brings on newness of life. Be like Christ.

8. "Worship together." This is a big help in marriage and any relationship. I heard going to church together will take your marriage from the 1 in 7 chance to divorce to 1 in 400. Do things together. Bearing with one another in love. Endenvor to keep in unity with one another in love.