Have you been involved in an affair? In Ephesians we learn that a man and woman become one flesh, their body belongs to their spouse. When you engage in an affair you are defiling your spouse's property. Have you ever owned something that you cared about greatly? Did you ever abuse it? Did you allow someone borrow it?

Being a man I understand the pride that developed in accomplishing something and having something to show for it. Some people have nice cars they like to drive and show off. For many their car becomes their precious possession. They would not allow something to happen to it. When something does happen it is like the whole world has fallen apart. They get very upset and outraged.

Men when you have an affair just think of how your wife feels. How you feel about your precious car pales in comparison to how she feels about you having sex with another woman. Women feel emotions at a much greater degree than us men. How would you feel if your wife was going out and having an affair with another man? Most men would go crazy. If you don't like is when your wife has an affair or if something happens to your precious car, then don't do it to your wife. Remember your body belongs to your wife just like her body belongs to you.

When you engage in an affair you are not mistreating yourself but your spouse. You are taking what belongs to them and using it without their permission. You are abusing it and dragging it through filth.

I know what this is like. Years ago, being involved in a sham marriage, this stuff did happen. After I found out I did not want to have anything to do with her. By the time I found out it was all too late. She had become abusive, there was a new baby, and things did not feel right. She tried to justify it by claiming I had a girlfriend and she was just respecting my space (although she gave a longer explanation 'space' is a simple summary). I felt disgusted. She had gotten pregnant from the affair and tried to pass the baby off as mine. Still, her words were not helpful. Even though men don't have to worry about getting pregnant, there are other things that can and often happen.

Just like I knew there was something going on well before she said anything, so too your wife can tell there is something going on long before you say anything. It is better to remain faithful. The cost of having and affair is just not worth it. All the time and effort I put into that relationship seems like a complete waste. However, I do have the benefit of knowledge I can use in all future relationships.

Keep all your relationships centered around God.